Is there help for my bedwetting child?


The topic of bedwetting is as vast as the ocean and so are the prescribed ‘solutions’ a concerned mom or dad will find. This post is not about how to STOP the bedwetting, but how to UNDERSTAND it.

In a recent article that appeared in the Huffington Post, Dr. Gail Gross (pictured below) discussed the issue of bedwetting or sleepwetting.

gailgrossFor those of you looking for the gist of what she had to say, here it is in one paragraph: Bedwetting is traumatic for your child and beyond their control. Bedwetting leaves a child feeling any number of negative emotions including guilt, anxiety and humiliation. The incident may cause them to hide what has happened or they may become increasingly withdrawn. As a parent or guardian, you have the power to reassure them, comfort them and undo the crazy they feel every single time they wake up in a wet bed.

For the rest of us, who want to understand the occurrence, Dr. Gross encouraged adults to understand that bedwetting is a development issue. This means that every time a child urinates while asleep, you need to let him or her know that it’s not their fault. Sure, as a human being you’re like to feel frustrated when you’re drying a mattress for the umpteenth time.

When you feel this way, consider how a person with exponentially less life experience than you feels. Dr. Gross reminded readers that children also feel inadequate, vulnerable and frustrated. In a child, these emotions can lead to devastating loss of confidence.

parent child making bedDr. Gross suggested that working with your child on the issue might leave him or her feeling proactive about the situation. In the article, she put forward the activity of cleaning up the wet bed together. She said this would leave a child with a sense of control, purpose and progress.

Dr. Gross stressed that it was important to adopt the attitude of empathy and not of punishment when doing the exercise together.
Sleepwetting is triggered by processes in the brain that control bladder function.

This is where the developmental argument arises. A brain that literally needs to grow and control bodily functions does so at different rates for different people. There is no normal and subscribing to the belief can only hurt so-called ‘underperformers’ in the future.

A bed alarm trains the brain to wake up before the bladder is emptied. To accomplish this, it’s important to note at what time the bedwetting happens and set the alarm before it does. If you look at it in a scientific manner, you chances of preserving your child’s self esteem is immediately elevated.

Blog Boy Journal WritingBedwetting is also connected to emotional development. Dr. Gross gave wonderful advice about having a set session with your child to let them express their emotions. If you feel your child is more of a private soul, introduce a journal that he or she can safely vent anger, disappointment, shame and sorrow in.

It’s important to reiterate that the journal can also be used to write about the successes, like a night with a dry bed. If your child asks that you not peek into their journal, respect their boundaries with clear guidelines on your expectations.

Beyond brain connection and emotional understanding, there could also be a physical problem that your child may be experiencing. As a parent, you’re in the best position to make a call as to whether your child requires an examination by a doctor.

It’s vitally important that if the bedwetting is a physical problem that your child understands that his or her body is normal. Protect them from the negative emotions that come along with a deeply invasive experience like urinating in one’s sleep.

With technology today, there are several options for a physical problem including medicine. And fortunately, there are several mattresses to choose from that take bedwetting into consideration. Find out more from us.